But although a difference in opinions or modes of worship may prevent an entire external union, yet need it prevent our union in affection Though we cannot think alike, may we not love alike May we not be of one heart, though we are not of one opinion Without all doubt, we may. Herein all the children of God may unite, notwithstanding these smaller differences. These remaining as they are, they may forward one another in love and in good works.
My prayer for the UMC as we navigate our own in-between times is that we can have more focused conversations, filled with grace and understanding, loving each other in spite of disagreement, especially when it comes to human sexuality (could write a whole other post on that). We need to lose ourselves and let go of our egos regardless of whether we are conservative, liberal, or moderate, finding where we can ALL come together to advance the Gospel of Jesus Christ in our communities, nations, and world, working for the common good. This might be naive and a little foolish on my part to seek such, but I believe that it can happen and my calling is grounded in building bridges and working with people who may think differently than I do. However, I also think on the words from the apostle, Paul in Romans 8: 24-28, who writes
One of the greatest blessings in my time in seminary is that I was challenged on my embedded theology many times, by fellow students and faculty. I've had to prune some things, re-think other things, but also learn to love and show love even when it was a challenge to do so. But, there are also times I've fallen short and I seek forgiveness from those whom I may not have shown love towards in times of disagreement. We're human and it will happen, but we also have the choice to make whether or not we will show love and grace. We have the choice whether we will listen to and even pray among one another despite differences, and that we will still come together at the table. I recall Bishop Warner Brown's episcopal address at last year's session of the California-Nevada Annual Conference that when we listen to each other and love one another, it is possible to be like the NRA and Green Peace family members to sit at the Thanksgiving table together and eat from the same turkey. That was one of the greatest blessings I have had in my time at Wesley, becoming good friends with those whose thoughts and opinions that differed from mine, sharing a meal together, studying together, and praying together amidst our differences. And, we still loved each other because we saw each other as fellow brothers and sisters. That is my prayer for the UMC too, that we can get back to seeing each other as brothers and sisters in Christ, not for what we believe. Perhaps we can learn how all things together can work for the good!!
Another blessing in coming full circle at Wesley and into the in-between times is making deep friendships with people I have met, people I will be friends with for life amidst the distance, as these friends can still challenge me and keep me accountable and I can do the same, even though my style is more like that of a careful and gentle shepherd. Recently, I saw the love of Christ come through a friend who challenged me to love myself, as this has been a challenge for me my whole life and admit, it's made loving others a challenge because I can't love myself and even made accepting God's love a challenge. Not being able to love myself has at times caused me to foolishly think I would loose these same friends over something menial, but it is also foolish to think that, as true friends will stand by you and these friends have. Knowing them has made me realize that I AM LOVED, not just by them but also by God, flaws, personality quirks, and all. And I in turn love them, flaws, personality quirks, and all. Something that was said to me recently is something that will resonate with me for the rest of my life: "God loves me just as I am, as God was willing to sacrifice God's self and die for me." No matter where we are or who we are in life, God loves each of us and I am grateful that my eyes have been opened to this, as I admit I'm sometimes like the disciples and just don't get it. Sometimes, you NEED friends like this to speak the truth in love and while it might come in the form of a kick here and there, it is sometimes necessary. I also would not have made it through the seminary, or the candidacy process without these same friends, encouraging me along the way and prodding me where needed, including tough love. See, love is not always warm and fuzzy, which I admit was more along the way of my jaded view of love.
But we also must be open to these kinds of challenges and to being held accountable. While I desire to go onto perfection, particularly in love, I know I am going to fall short many times along the way and while these friends may also challenge me, they are the same ones who will help me up when I fall and encourage me to get back on track. This in-between time is a good time to implement it and move towards a more disciplined life, especially when it comes to body, mind, and soul. And so, I come into the in-between times, cherishing the memories and friendships I made at Wesley Theological Seminary, but now turning my face to the new life and the new day that will come July 1 when I begin serving my first appointment. Let us continue to be a source of light in this world and continue building bridges between each other.